tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38232942.post8997214246959675124..comments2024-03-15T01:38:51.061-07:00Comments on MotherhoodLater.com - World’s leading newsletter, website and community for midlife moms: What’s in a Name?--by JamieRobin Gorman Newmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06816036736416667540noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38232942.post-44215496950222449452010-06-29T09:55:06.144-07:002010-06-29T09:55:06.144-07:00Times have changed, and our ways of showing respec...Times have changed, and our ways of showing respect have changed, too. Instead of relying on titles, I believe we teach our children to show respect by calling others what they choose to be called. It's not as easy as calling everyone Miss, Mrs., or Mr. So-and-So, but it's a much more personal kind of respect that shows we pay attention to the individual.carolbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13752879541781076423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38232942.post-24583784753108553082010-06-29T04:31:31.123-07:002010-06-29T04:31:31.123-07:00No Comments Yet. What! Well let me be first. Hi ...No Comments Yet. What! Well let me be first. Hi luv. Your old friend from Oz here, checking in on your blog. Great read by the way.<br /><br />It's a great topic and one that comes up quite a bit with the 'olds' and our generation. Of course we all feel too young to be called 'Mrs' - that is our mum, until the day we die. And don't we notice with a bit of a shock, when anyone does call us Miss... or Mrs... Why? Because it is not our name nor a title we actually asked for.<br /><br />Personally I don't mind if one of my kids little friends call me Mrs Hill, but I do get a smirk on my face, and just think, wow he/she has been trained! Then I will say, 'you can call me Chris'.<br /><br />I was always instructed to use Mr & Mrs as well as Aunty and Uncle to all 'adults'. All my parents friends were always an Aunt or an Uncle as well as my real Aunts and Uncles; although I didn't know that for some time. Very confusing. Then you get older and learn about relatives and that Uncle Len is really my godfather and dad's best friend, not my Uncle at all. Aunt Elly who always worked in my dads shop, is not even an aunt. Weird!<br /><br />I did grow up around a large number of adults working in my dads business and called all by their first name (except Aunt Elly). I was taught that respect is not in a 'title' but in behavour and good manners. You should always address the person you are talking to before talking. Getting their attention, - not a "hey you"... but using their name in a polite and friendly manner.<br /><br />Teachers of course were always Mr & Mrs or Miss, which I agree is a respectful title; but also one which is rapidly changing. Lots of schools now use first name with teachers and I don't think it is a bad thing.<br /><br />I like to think all kids can feel on an equal footing with everyone they encounter and not feel intimidated. Always being respectful, always well mannered, in an environment where they can learn and flourish. The title of the teacher certainly has nothing to do with that. The quality of the teacher is in how they interact with the kids, of any age.<br /><br />My mother in law would not agree (yes, I do have one), but she is a good example of someone expecting respect via a title, other than showing respect to others via behaviour. She will start talking to you in a room full of people and wonder why you don't answer. "oh, were you talking to me, sorry I didn't realise." This is something I notice in people all the time and think it very bad manners.<br /><br />Lets be conscious of using peoples names, making them feel good that you actually know their name, and they will never care if you said Mr or Mrs. Their name is what is important to them, not their title.<br /><br />Thanks Jamie. I didn't know you could inspire me so much... my first correspondance in a blog.<br />Chrischillybothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17303656831535212567noreply@blogger.com