Wednesday, February 21, 2007

Birthdays....for Better or Worse

Where does the time go? I feel like I'm constantly racing the clock to get things done in between Seth's leaving and returning from school. But, beyond the hours in a day....where do the years go?

Seth is turning four this Saturday, and he's a "little man" now. He can't wait for his birthday because he stumbled on one of his unwrapped presents in the basement and has been asking every day since if today is his birthday. We are trying to explain to him the difference between today, tomorrow, yesterday, etc. But, since he so lives in the moment, he just wants everything now....or wants tomorrow to be today.

In his own way, unknowingly, he is wishing time away. I, on the other hand, try to savor the moments. He is growing quickly. And, as he ages, so do I, and others I love...and life can feel so fleeting.

One of my 40 something friends had a birthday this week. I sent her a card, and she replied via email by saying thanks and that she'd prefer not to remember it. I got the sense that the years of celebrating it were over for her, and it made me feel sad.

Yes.....I'm getting older....we all are....but what is the alternative? And, I do want my birthdays remembered, for better or worse. I will never tire of receiving a well-chosen card or gift. If you want to keep it in birthday is August....just don't have to send a present......but good wishes are always appreciated. And, most importantly, good health and more fun times ahead, as we watch our children grow into themselves!

We just ordered the birthday cake for Seth....this year it will be a Bob the Builder theme. I hope it will leave an impression on him. I know it will on me. And, I'll be sure to tuck away a miniature Muck or Lofty (if you know Bob the Builder) for Seth, too, can look back one day when he is no longer wishing away tomorrow....and smile.


Blogger BabyTalkers said...

My son is not even 2 yet, but I can relate. I have no idea where all the time went. He also loves Bob the Builder, by the way. :) Happy birthday to your little man.


6:13 PM  
Blogger Aliza said...

I just visited a girlfriend who had her baby last week. It was so hard for me earlier in the day to prepare because my first few weeks with Noa were so difficult. So much time has gone by that I think I should be feeling better about it but all the early troubles are still so fresh in my mind after 8 months. I just wish I could go back only to correct all the mistakes I made early on - not because I miss her newborn stage. But I do try to savor each moment now.

11:48 AM  
Blogger Robin Gorman Newman said...

Thanks for the good wishes Csara. Bob the Builder is cool! His party turned out great this weekend. I was quite teary eyed on Saturday, his actual birthday. Seth keeps talking about being a big boy but not fully big....and to me, I wonder where my baby has already gone?! in the moment is the best we can do. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but as moms, we fly by the seat of our pants a lot and hope that somehow in the end, it all works out. :)


7:09 PM  

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